So sorry for the typo on the word "sickness" but the truth of this is the important thing. While in Ecclesiastes we're taught there is a time for this and that, indeed it's not handed to us in a neat little package from which we can choose those times. What is a Family? is a wonderful book, authored by Edith Schaeffer, and I highly recommend it for your library if you don't have it. It's available for your Kindle at a great price.